Just Make It Better

photo by Misserion

Sometimes you have to give in and do nothing.

There’s an impatience in people who want to make things better, in entrepreneurs, in my generation specifically. This immense desire to reach our pot of goals is pushing us away from this moment, further stagnating progress and increasing pressure. Reaching your own greatness shouldn’t mean feeling stressed out and emotionally slamming towards it. Being better means knowing when to stop.

photo by Pedro Klien

The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt.

- Bertrand Russell

Perhaps the greatest mistake we make is making the common opinion that everyone should have children.

In our society having children is considered normal. Being childless is odd and misunderstood, with people concluding that something is either amiss with mind or fertility. Having kids has become an easy way of finding purpose, love and direction, like a to-do list box to check off on the path to American happiness.

photo by lu_lu

The seven boys in my high school class, coupled with my daddy issues, had me thinking better than to waste my virginity on some local loser.

Which at nineteen, left me a dating novice, wasting it on a Long Island loser.

Charlie was a cute, down on his luck 24 year old, with a doctor daddy and name-brand education. I was smitten, stupid, and only paying attention to what I wanted to. Happy to think he was perfect, in his Ralph Lauren life.

20/20 Hindsight

CIRCLE ONE ONLY

quickly.

old.

powerful.

painlessly.

rich.

unknowingly.

With a lot of love.

photo by eugeni_dododov

Be honest -

Which one would you really pick? How does that relate to your life’s joy? What does that mean to who you are and the life you are living now?

Inspired by Hunter Nuttall’s post How do you want to die? and my comment to it.

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1. Always keep your audience’s pleasure in mind.

2. Learn everything you can about it.

3. Do it often.

4. Try new things to stay exciting and unexpected.

5. Look good while doing it.

6. If you’re good people will come back for more.

7. If you’re the best people will never forget you.

8. Be selective who you do it with.

9. Give, don’t just receive.

10. With time, you can always improve.

11. Be receptive to feedback.

12. Accept that regardless of performance, some people will not like you.

photo by Muffet

Everywhere you look there are rules on the right way to do something.

Whether it be blogging, work, or dating there’s something somewhere telling us how to do it right.

Doing it right is what has us bored, hurting and running to be acceptable.

1. Stop trying to do things the right way.

If you don’t like the game, don’t play it. If you go along with it you’re just a hypocrite, perpetuating the very thing you deem unworthy. At that point you might as well accept it and conform. You are already anyway.

What’s with all the rich people hate

When we all want to be lottery winners
Sneering at their nice cars and flashy rings
Yet dream of when our boat comes in
We eat up the celebrity circuit
With their style, hair and Pilates bodies

They don’t deserve it

No matter: grateful or humble
Whether born into it or earned from nothing
Hate them anyway
By the way they dress
The car they drive
The hair they wear

We’re all just hypocrites

We don’t care
It’s not right unless it’s happening to us
We want our cut

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Thinking about becoming single but fear it? Ever suddenly find yourself single?

After healing from a breakup, gaining the interests of new suitors can feel like a struggle. As I enter new stages of life I see how much harder it can be to get to know people intimately.  These rules of adulthood sure limit our chances of finding possible relationships.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

The trick is to give more potential partners a chance.

I’m sitting in my apartment wondering when this entrepreneurial risk will run it’s course. I have a fat lip from my puppy’s big, hard head bucking into my face and I’m fucking scared.

Is the road less traveled going to send me over a cliff?

I would love for this site to grow and influence and lead. I would love to help thousands of people. I know my limitations. I don’t have the means to cure diseases or invent life changing devices. Maybe I’m not fit to create something we’ll all buy one day, but the ones I impassion could.

photo by LFL16

You know when you can really feel something? When it’s so real and honest it moves you?

Those moments in life when you feel it way deep down inside. When, effortlessly, goosebumps come out because it’s so indisputably good your body reacts for you.

It makes you think. It impacts you. Great music, art and business is built on that. TED is a good example.

Don’t stand for the processed stuff.  From the one who loves you, companies you support. Yourself.