Just Make It Better

I ache to live an exuberant life. One filled with crazy stories of youthful thrills, love and spontaneous adventures. I dream that my deathbed memories will supersede childhood fairy tales.  At the same time I want to impact those around me. I have friends who live their lives miniminally instead of their best. Oozing with potential, they bumble through life afraid to fail, afraid to live, or else too dumb to know the difference. Oh what I would do to shake the stupid out of them!

Grabbing their shoulders, I’d scream: “Dear God you’re so beautiful, amazing and brilliant, please don’t waste it! The world needs your talent! I need it! You need it!”

photo by Clairity

Whether a regular reader or not, this post will give you some insights on blogging, business and getting back to being yourself. I’m shifting things here at JMIB. Read on to hear about why and what is coming – it’s worth it.

Initially created to explore writing, entrepreneurship and help people, I’m afraid this site has become my emotions translated into a blog.

photo by SegFaults

Ask me!

People keep emailing asking for one on one advice. They appreciate the direct approach I give. People in my personal life always call looking for guidance.

It got me thinking maybe the silent majority – those weary to ask or only curious of the answers – would like to get in on this too.

A new thing I’d like to try here on JMIB.

If YOU are one of those who are unsure of anything, just ask. Then I’ll post the question and my answer on the site. Any preference to anonymity will be respected.

This is part 2 of my series on weight loss. As I said before, I used to be twenty pounds  heavier and would like to share what I learned from losing it. I’m not professional in any sense, just an experienced person who has applied a realistic method to losing weight and keeping it off.  Unlike other sites which may list ten tips for good abs,  similar to the Crap Detox series, this is designed to create a basic understanding about weight loss, food and lifestyle change. One that should, if you’re open to it, create a paradigm shift with regards to weight loss and its entities.

Contrary to the know-it-all alpha female that ricochets off this site, I am very aware of many of my flaws. (And probably still disillusioned about many others.) One trait I’ve been warned about is my most predominant personality trait. I’m conscious of it and have struggled immensely to control, change and alter it. Like many people, I couldn’t seem to figure out how to remedy this character issue. After much internal deliberation I think I may have found the secret to handling character flaws.

Here’s the thing – and yes this thing matters to you too – this “flaw” just happens to also make me me.

We’ve come a long way.

A ways away from what we’ve been.

Nice to see the road we’ve taken.

For it’s been a-changing.

Sometimes when we feel lost it helps to tip a hat to the progress we’ve made. Like an old movie a revisited past is remarkably different through older eyes. Feel proud of where you’ve come from and remind yourself of the changes you’ve made. You’re not the person you once were and can be better now because you know better.

That is, then again, if you choose to be.

This is the first of a series regarding weight loss, exercise and body image. Unlike other sites which may list ten tips for good abs, this, similar to the Crap Detox series, is designed to create a greater understanding about weight loss, food and lifestyle change. One that should, if you’re open to it, create a paradigm shift with regards to weight loss and its entities.

My back-story

It’s silly and slightly melodramatic: I wish that people could just stop being hurt so much. I’m an ENFJ and one of the things that it says about me is that I pretty much see the potential greatness in everything.  I can quickly and meticulously identify where something or someone exemplifies space for improvement. In essence, I long to make things better. (Go figure.)

I’m always thinking about the women in Congo. People who are losing their homes. Children whose genius is being ruined with poor instruction, malnutrition and unkind direction. I hate knowing everyday civilians in Iraq experience massive devastation.

This is for all you country girls and small town boys. And for anyone who is somewhere dreaming they could take the leap to make a change. If you dream of getting out from where you are but don’t believe you can, this post is for you.

I was raised in upstate New York, in a small town with two stoplights. The place consists of very little: mainly obese townies, neglected property and a large amount of livestock. It’s a safe, sheltered place to keep your kids simple and out of as much trouble as possible.