Why don’t women just have sex?
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Woman #1: “What do you do when you are really attracted to a man, but understand there’s no chance to have a future with him? As in yeah, maybe he’s nice and will treat you okay, but in the end he’s fundamentally wrong for you. What do you with that guy?”
Woman #2: “You have sex with him.”
Why does sex always have to mean something? Who said so?
We know about the double standard. Women shouldn’t give it away or else they are way to easy. Those that do are insecure, doing loads of guys in an attempt to get affection, and doubly slutty. Still, aren’t women themselves projecting this ideology? Not to say they are completely responsible, but if a woman acts based on what society says is right for her, she is as responsible for perpetuating the double standard.
Conflicting it is, as some women desire more sex, just as some guys do. Still, women recant their “intercourse-count” like a badge of honor. Those with the least are the strongest, purer and thereby better designed for respect and love.
As in she’s less tainted because fewer penises have crossed her path.
Yay! Here’s your fucking badge.
A few points to discuss:
1. You’d think I’d rant about this if my number were “high”. You decide and judge (you will anyway):
I lost it at nineteen and with a string of relationships to follow and one really, horrible basement experience, I’m at #6. Then again, I also have an unmarried friend who’s forty-four and she’s had three partners.
Based on that, what is the reference point to a lot anyway? Who decides again? And technically, if you aren’t passing a disease around, why should anyone care how many came before?
2. Adult abstinence is proven unrealistc. People seem to think God forgets the abstinence rule once they get old enough to convince themselves He won’t care after a certain age. Women convince themselves they are morally uncorrupted if they keep the number low and only for those ”worthy” .
(Please don’t tell me no one should have sex, if that’s your bag then cool, but take it elsewhere, no one cares about fairy tales here.)
3. There’s value to quality over quantity and personally I’m not into one night stands, (one was enough to tell me disconnected sex with a stranger is not my thing) but there’s more meaning to occasional, friendly indulgence than given credit. Especially when both participants have mutual respect and communication.
4. Are women really meant to be so chase? Would they be better lovers if they got more practice? The women who can orgasm most are those who’ve masterbated since age twelve. Maybe practice makes perfect.
When women only have sex with men they “love” (or at least pretend to the world they do) they aren’t saving more of themselves for their relationships. By focusing on nailing down a mate women aren’t having any fun finding one and limiting themselves from becoming a better mate. My point isn’t to say you should jump on every stallion that runs by. What I mean is women everywhere are using sex as means to an end when they should be riding it to the end of an orgasm.
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“Not to say they are completely responsible, but if a woman acts based on what society says is right for her, she is as responsible for perpetuating the double standard.”
They are responsible for perpetuating this double standard. Why is it that when a man goes out there and have sex with loads of women, he becomes some sort of fuck-hero… and ironically, quite a few women desire him more. The exact opposite would happen if it was a woman.
December 4th, 2009 at 3:31 pmJocelyn,
I think the exact opposite often happens with women because women carry their sexual history with a heavy heart. Unlike men, they aren’t proud of who or how many they’ve been with. With that, how else do they expect to be treated?
If a person walks with shame, expect to be damned.
December 4th, 2009 at 4:59 pm“…but fornicators and adulterers God will judge..”
December 6th, 2009 at 2:31 amSS,
Is your comment interpretive? Because if it’s literal, all it leaves me wondering is if you are a virgin, and if not, was one until marriage?
December 6th, 2009 at 7:36 pmI get where all this is coming from, but there are a few things you have to keep in mind. What nationality is the woman? What kind of town does she come from, a small one where everyone knows each other or a big one where a few know each other? How does she see herself? Does she care about what others think of her or does she live for herself? I don’t believe in no sex until marriage, but it’s safer to not over do it. Every woman has to do what’s right for her.
January 29th, 2010 at 4:13 pmFloral Joy´s last blog ..Expat in Waiting – Part 3 | Learning the lingo | PowderRoomGraffiti
“every woman has to do what is right for her.”
More women would be having BETTER (& probably more) sex if they actually did that.
January 30th, 2010 at 10:46 pm