Comments on: Monogamy, for every man?

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 23:00:19 +0000

John,

At least you’re doing your part.

By: John Griggs

John Griggs — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 04:46:25 +0000

I don’t know if the gay community has the perfect model for relationships, but I think it’s better than the average heterosexual model.

One out of two marriages end in divorce. Those couples that choose to stay together for life often stay because of convenience, not because they are in love with each other.

I think the way marriages currently operate is outdated. People change so much over the years, the chances of being together for life is very slim. Instead of committing for life, why not commit for like five years and renew your marriage license like you would a driver’s license if you choose?

As far as polyamory goes, I say why not! If you are someone’s “girlfriend” or “wife”, that is labeling yourself, and implies you belong to somebody. You are not property, and I think we would be better off if more people lived polyamorous. I was in a couple of long term monagamous relationships with women… the last relationship ended earlier this year. I’m single now and ready to try something new.

I don’t think society as a whole is ready for polyamory. However, I think it would be a positive change if more people adopted this lifestyle. I think I’m going do my part to help mankind and join a polyamorous dating site.
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By: Nicole

Nicole — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:28:26 +0000

Melissa,

Your openmindness is refreshing. Just because you wouldn’t doesn’t mean other’s shouldn’t.

I too, can’t really imagine being into sharing. But I’ve never been with someone more than four years, so I can’t imagine what will come with a lifetime together either.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 17:04:34 +0000

I suppose my radar on right or wrong is made up of a lifetime of conditioning from family, society, experience, etc. What makes something right for me doesn’t make it right for someone else. There are always some sort of moral standards that a society tries to live up to. But would I, an independent American woman, make it in a community where I was expected to be subservient to men (or anyone, really)? Probably not. So, most of us have been conditioned to remain monogamous, whether we like that idea or not. I suppose this makes it hard to step outside of that social norm. Whether or not it is wrong or right or hard-wired in us, it’s not for me to decide. But what I know is this: I treasure my body and do not give it out freely. I value being STD-free and free from the betrayal of cheating and picturing my man sticking it to another woman. It makes me sick. But that’s just me.

By: Nicole

Nicole — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 15:37:05 +0000

CJ,

I suppose that’s another point. To each man and woman their own, without ridicule or explanation. Old fashioned or not, you’re entitled to your own choices for happiness.

Blackie Ray,

I can’t imagine the men I’ve been with being fine with me exploring outside our relationship. Have you ever tried it? Know anyone that has?

By: Blackie Ray

Blackie Ray — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 11:03:12 +0000

The myth of fidelity and monogamy has reigned for centuries. One by fable and one by religion. Yet, it has been violated by every social, economic and religious class in one form or another, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. In fact with a couple of exceptions that don’t come to mind, polyamorous behavior is rampant throughout the animal kingdom. Certain mores will always be in place and in favor, but all seem pliable depending on the parties involved. “Love the one your with” may be hitting closer to the truth than we care to admit. Yet can two people reconcile amour and domicile w/out one of the two feeling left out? Depends on the two I suspect.

By: CJ

CJ — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 06:13:27 +0000

I’m old fashioned. One woman with one man. Married to each other. Capish?!