It’s not how it’s done. It’s how you do it.
photo by Muffet
Everywhere you look there are rules on the right way to do something.
Whether it be blogging, work, or dating there’s something somewhere telling us how to do it right.
Doing it right is what has us bored, hurting and running to be acceptable.
1. Stop trying to do things the right way.
If you don’t like the game, don’t play it. If you go along with it you’re just a hypocrite, perpetuating the very thing you deem unworthy. At that point you might as well accept it and conform. You are already anyway.
2. Be real about it.
If you want to call the next day, do it. If you choose to home-school, then do it. Just do it because you’ve decided it’s best for you and yours, not because you want to be different. Being different to stand out is being the same with a new shirt on.
3. Don’t be foolish.
Work with the system. Learn the ins and outs of it and if it doesn’t work for you, figure out a way to make it work for both of you. Understanding how it’s done is crucial for a thorough critique. Most people stop at the surface, believing what they observe and feel. There’s lessons in everything and popularity has its teachings too.
4. Execution is the only element you have control over.
There’s no other you in the world. Who knows what your unique-ass will come up with.
5. Don’t misconstrue this idea as an ode to rebellion.
Being too aggressive and judgmental can have people responding to your attitude, not ideas. Be nice and approachable. Do as you would do and those that get it will follow. Ignore those that don’t. Remember it’s about being you, not antagonistic.
When dealing with authority or social norms and customs, there’s always a way to balance your way with the popular way. Stop making decisions based on what everyone else is doing.
Summing it up: Fuck ‘em. Do what makes you happy. What you prefer. Do what would make it better. You always have the choice.
Linksies: Remarkablogger Michael Martine writes about this well in “How to quit your job, divorce your wife and become a successful blogger at the same time.”
Btw, what’s your opinion on the new about page?
****
If you haven’t subscribed, do so and you can receive posts freely by email or RSS. To support JMIB, please share it or your favorite posts with friends, both online and off.
You should follow me on Twitter here. Enjoy my one-liners.
Your “summing it up” hits the nail right on the head. Fantastic post Nicole!
August 2nd, 2009 at 12:51 pmDayne | TheHappySelf.com´s last blog ..How to Build a Fat Retirement Nest Egg
I’ve carried a “fuck ‘em” attitude for a while now. If people don’t like what I have to say or do? FUCK ‘EM! I know that maybe doesn’t come across as the most professional or mature way of thinking… but my point being, the more you become stressed over the “right” way of doing something (aka: how others think it should be done) the more likely you are to hold yourself back.
I’d rather be true to myself than to somebody else.
August 3rd, 2009 at 11:00 pmTravis´s last blog ..Mind Stimulation 2