Just Make It Better

I ache to live an exuberant life. One filled with crazy stories of youthful thrills, love and spontaneous adventures. I dream that my deathbed memories will supersede childhood fairy tales.  At the same time I want to impact those around me. I have friends who live their lives miniminally instead of their best. Oozing with potential, they bumble through life afraid to fail, afraid to live, or else too dumb to know the difference. Oh what I would do to shake the stupid out of them!

Grabbing their shoulders, I’d scream: “Dear God you’re so beautiful, amazing and brilliant, please don’t waste it! The world needs your talent! I need it! You need it!”

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Woman #1: “What do you do when you are really attracted to a man, but understand there’s no chance to have a future with him? As in yeah, maybe he’s nice and will treat you okay, but in the end he’s fundamentally wrong for you. What do you with that guy?”

Woman #2: “You have sex with him.”

Why does sex always have to mean something? Who said so?

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Recently, a gay man revealed sexual fidelity doesn’t exist in the Land of Just Penis.

He went on to explain that gay men have open relationships. Unlike the common monogamy in heterosexual relationships, it’s perfectly acceptable to be committed and have a boyfriend on the side simultaneously. The partner knows about this side fling and probably has one himself, perhaps even bringing one home to play. All parties involved are aware of the circumstances and their rank in it. It’s accepted and very common. So much so that the anomaly is gay men who are sexually committed.

Despite my revelation on the uselessness of blogging monetization, (for me, at least) there are still sites worth talking about. I’ve compiled them here so you have something interesting to read when I’m not posting.

Please add your own links in the comments.

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More Is Better

Our shared name and simliar blog titles destined my affections for More is Better.

Written by twenty-something Nicole, a snarky-sweet nomad looking for greater purpose and new ways to help people. Entertaining and feel good, it’s deliciously perfect for anyone young or just plain immature.

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I went to this party last week. I’m still breaking down my thoughts on the night. They vary greatly but I’d say it was as interesting as was disappointing, for many different reasons.

One thing that is certain: my unwavering respect for Mr. Godin. Despite our limited engagement, I felt his sincerity is as evident and meaningful in person as it is online.

The video starts and ends abruptly and is dimly lit, but the audio is clear, so in the end you get what matters.

I hope you enjoy it.

photo by Clairity

Whether a regular reader or not, this post will give you some insights on blogging, business and getting back to being yourself. I’m shifting things here at JMIB. Read on to hear about why and what is coming – it’s worth it.

Initially created to explore writing, entrepreneurship and help people, I’m afraid this site has become my emotions translated into a blog.

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Ask me!

People keep emailing asking for one on one advice. They appreciate the direct approach I give. People in my personal life always call looking for guidance.

It got me thinking maybe the silent majority – those weary to ask or only curious of the answers – would like to get in on this too.

A new thing I’d like to try here on JMIB.

If YOU are one of those who are unsure of anything, just ask. Then I’ll post the question and my answer on the site. Any preference to anonymity will be respected.

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I love him like the way people love cookies or Pixar. There’s just something about Seth.

Whenever I read his books, blog or watch a talk I feel fuzzy inside. It doesn’t matter if the topic is relevant or not, he always gets me inspired. I admire him in a way typically reserved for activists and world changers.

I would love to be his friend. Grateful having earned just to be in his presence.

I’d likely die from humility.

Then one day I realized I already have Seth. (We all can, really.)

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That’s all you really need to do.

If it gives you joy you’ll want to do it more and more. You’ll be passionate about it and be willing to practice to get better at it. With that you’ll innovate and improve.

Loving it will make you okay at working hard at it. It will also give you the strength to ignore naysayers and   all-around mean people.

This will bring value to others and to what you’re doing because by loving it, you’ll have integrity, satisfaction and respect for what you produce.

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People that care about what other people think make choices based on what other people are doing.

They are the same people that say:

That’s not how it’s done.

(Insert name, institution etc) wouldn’t like it.

People just don’t do that.

That wouldn’t look good.

It’s highly likely you’re one of them.

Have you ever said anything like that? Thought anything like that? Have you ever operated based on what something, someone, somewhere decides is good?